Beware of the Angle of Your Communication

Two guys next to each other talking

We all come at communications from a different angle. Literally. Understanding the angle can dramatically influence the impact.

This works whether you are talking to one person or talking to an auditorium filled with hundreds of people.

Side by Side

If you come at your communication side by side, it sends the message of avoiding the communication.

There’s no need for eye contact.

You can talk around the issues instead of taking them head on.

You can easily look the other way without having to break eye contact when the discussion gets uncomfortable.

Two guys sitting next to each other avoiding eye contact

Sitting side by side makes it easy to avoid eye contact

 

Come at Communication from an Angle

The easiest way to put yourself in position to connect with communication, have good eye contact and keep the other person or people from feeling threatened is to come at your communication from an angle.

Not pure side by side and not head on.

Look at the examples below of how in one-on-one and group settings, body language positioned more at a 45-degree angle creates a level of ease and comfort.

Two guys in a One-on-one conversation

One-on-one conversation

Speaker at a podium angling his body to the audience.

Speaker at a podium angling his body to the audience.

 

 

Public speaker walking and talking to an audience at an angle.

Gerry walking and talking to an audience at an angle.

 

Change Angle, Change Impact

You can’t always come at communication from an angle, but by using non-threatening body language, body language intentionally angled to create ease and comfort for the person or people on the receiving end, you create contrast when you do come at your communication head on.

Whether that’s in a conversation, a meeting, or a presentation when you want to make a vitally important point, change your angle.

Move to a straight on delivery.

Your audience will get the point.

Presenter delivering straight on to an audience.

Gerry speaking straight on to an audience.

 

 

Variety Creates Interest and Enhances Impact

You obviously don’t want to always use one angle of communication.

If you are aware of what impact your angle of approach has on your audience–regardless of the size of that audience–you can change your angle of approach to intentionally change the mood, the reception, and the quality of the communication.

Too much side-by-side communication will leave you looking uncommitted and indecisive.

Too much straight on, “give it to me straight” communication will leave you developing a reputation as a communication bull, hard charging, lacking all subtlety.

We all know people whose communication style is a bull in a china shop, bull-headed, or even a bully.

The angle of body language has a lot to do with that reputation.

Man in business suit with a bull head

A bull-headed communicator gets a bad reputation.

 

The Key to the Right Angle

The right angle isn’t always a right angle. The key is knowing the impact you want to have and making sure you take the correct angle to your communication.

If you don’t feel like you are connecting with your communication, change your angle of approach.

The results may surprise you–not to mention your audience.

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